Divorce can be very hard on families, especially when special occasions arise. One of the biggest celebrations that occur each year is your child’s birthday. This is something that your child looks forward to all year long. If you and your ex-spouse can work together, you should be able to find a way to make the day memorable for your child.
Start by asking your child what they would like to do. With any luck, it will be something that you and your ex can handle together without arguing. Staying calm is the key to everyone enjoying the big day.
Ways to celebrate so everyone can participate
There are a variety of ways to celebrate that will make for a special day. Some ideas to consider include:
- Hosting one big party and inviting everyone. This is most likely how birthdays were celebrated in past years. As long as the adults (including family and friends) who are invited can keep things civil, this is a great option.
- Having separate celebrations. This might be the best option if you and your ex (or your families) can’t get along. There are a few ways to accomplish this:
- Take turns hosting the party each year. You might let your ex-spouse host the celebrations during even-numbered years. This would allow you to host during the odd-numbered years.
- Throw your own separate birthday party every year. Your ex can do the same. Your child might enjoy having two parties!
- Split the day up. You can take your child to brunch. Then, your ex can take your child to dinner or vice versa.
Just because you are divorced doesn’t mean your child’s birthday celebration has to be a difficult situation. Talk to each other and try to work things out. If you just cannot come to an agreement you might want to revisit your child custody plan.
