There was a time when divorce was largely frowned upon and viewed as a last resort and adversarial process. While there are certainly still contentious divorces and stigma, this is starting to shift. Spouses are realizing that they no longer have to stay in an unhappy marriage and that divorce doesn’t have to be full of conflict.
Of course, a peaceful divorce relies heavily on spouses being able to get along during the process. While this is where you would like to be, you’re not quite there yet. How can you build bridges with your spouse during the divorce? Here are two tips:
Avoid the blame game
In your eyes, the marriage may be coming to an end because of your spouse’s conduct. However, their view might be the opposite. The reality is that little can be achieved by placing the blame on one another. What’s important is where you both go from here.
Instead, focus on the good times that were had and the positive memories. This will give you a platform to build on during the divorce, and it is especially important to try to remain civil if you have children.
Focus on your priorities
Even if you are intent on fighting for everything you want during the divorce, it’s unlikely that you’ll walk away with this and the same can be said for your spouse. Try to set your priorities in terms of custody and property division. This may not only allow you to negotiate the divorce more efficiently, but you and your spouse may be able to draft legal documents very early in the process, avoiding the time and cost of court proceedings.
Even if you and your spouse are getting along, it’s important to protect yourself throughout the divorce. Having legal guidance behind you can make this happen.
